Wednesday 15 June 2011
HARMONIOUS FAMILY: Sakinah Family Tips
HARMONIOUS FAMILY: Sakinah Family Tips: "We often watch infotainment on TV, many celebrities who divorce. Seems trivial really, this one seems to matter only for administrative matt..."
Sakinah Family Tips
We often watch infotainment on TV, many celebrities who divorce. Seems trivial really, this one seems to matter only for administrative matters only.
In this paper, the authors do not want to be observers or for celebrity gossip, but more of interest to motivate us all in order to create a harmonious and peaceful family. For indeed, not just celebrities who can divorce, but ordinary people can, too. If only they understood how important it is to maintain a marriage, especially for us who believe in Allah, certainly the most mature consideration become the main reference.
Sometimes just because a small problem, they should end the marriage and children become victims of selfishness and arrogance of the parents. I do not know what we can understand, yet another reason for human rights or personal affairs and other things so that someone else is difficult to give input. Especially when the heart is "hot", Wahh .. certainly difficult to be able to give moral support.
of course we often attend weddings peers or our family and that often we also hear the prayers of parents who want their children to become family sakinah when married. Families who sakinah and always full of grace .. so pray the "old".
According to Indonesian rule, s akinah have a sense of peace, tranquility, serenity, happiness. So the family sakinah covered family implies a sense of peace, peaceful, happy as well (hopefully happy mentally and physically).
From sakinah word, we can understand that prayer is the desire of the elderly had a peaceful atmosphere in the household. but peace in the household often become damaged simply because there is no mutual understanding between husband and wife, especially when it comes to affairs of the material. Here are tips for creating family sakinah.
The author has got a few tips on how North became a family this sakinah when following the lecture / sermon at a menjid in western Java and hopefully useful for all of us:
1. when we apply 'the idol' to be a wife, we are not currently applying for / ask the parent / guardian of the girl, but we're asking to Allah through parent / guardian of the girl.
2. when we got married, we are not married in the presence of the prince but married before God Almighty.
3. when the wedding took place, record and count the audience for our current mendo'akan itu.Hal this we need to do and think more deeply if we are / were / are thinking about divorce, because it means we have to apologize to them because have wasted their prayers.
4. During their family life, realize that the road we must go is not merely a flower strewn path of happiness but also full of thorn bushes and thorns.
5. when the Big Dipper household shaky, do not quit each other's hand, but instead they were more tightly holding hands.
6. when we do not have children, wives or husbands cintailai with 100% whole-heartedly.
7. when it already has a child, not for love of a husband or wife and children with some parts but love the husband and wife and children with each of 100% whole-heartedly.
8. when the family economy has not improved, you can be assured that the door will open wide rizki proportional to the level of husband and wife's obedience to Allah (many are the wives who could not cope with all conditions of shortage of materials and finally chose to go).
9. when the economy is getting better, do not forget your faithful service to accompany a spouse when suffering (actually temptation much happens here, when life difficult; husband always faithful, but when it is well-established life and even more than enough, the husband often glanced at the other and even share the love with another woman)
10. when you are the husband, may be spoiled, spoiled even infantile to his wife and immediately got into a mighty man is in charge when his wife needed help.
11. when you are a wife, you still apply elegant, graceful and appear Canti and meek, but must always be ready menyeleaikan all tasks successfully.
12. when educating children, do not ever think that a good parent is a parent who was never angry with the child, because parents are good parents who are honest to the child.
13. when the child is in trouble, be assured that no one single child who does not want to cooperate with parents, that there is a child who was not heard by their parents.
14. for you women, when there is Mr. Wonderful Others, do not drink, it is enough that your husband be a "drug".
15. for you man, when there are Other Women's craving, do not ever invite sebiduk sailing both to the ocean of love, it is enough for your wife as a port of the liver.
16. when we became a family sakinah, contohlah rasululloh s family.
nah, that's the tips that might be useful. is easier to write than the diving. but at least, respect and mutual respect between husband and wife as well as understanding the rights and obligations adalahs absolute requirement to be sakinah. The most meaningful to us if you want to sail into the ocean of life is "faith", so that large waves can even go through with success though they have soaked.
In this paper, the authors do not want to be observers or for celebrity gossip, but more of interest to motivate us all in order to create a harmonious and peaceful family. For indeed, not just celebrities who can divorce, but ordinary people can, too. If only they understood how important it is to maintain a marriage, especially for us who believe in Allah, certainly the most mature consideration become the main reference.
Sometimes just because a small problem, they should end the marriage and children become victims of selfishness and arrogance of the parents. I do not know what we can understand, yet another reason for human rights or personal affairs and other things so that someone else is difficult to give input. Especially when the heart is "hot", Wahh .. certainly difficult to be able to give moral support.
of course we often attend weddings peers or our family and that often we also hear the prayers of parents who want their children to become family sakinah when married. Families who sakinah and always full of grace .. so pray the "old".
According to Indonesian rule, s akinah have a sense of peace, tranquility, serenity, happiness. So the family sakinah covered family implies a sense of peace, peaceful, happy as well (hopefully happy mentally and physically).
From sakinah word, we can understand that prayer is the desire of the elderly had a peaceful atmosphere in the household. but peace in the household often become damaged simply because there is no mutual understanding between husband and wife, especially when it comes to affairs of the material. Here are tips for creating family sakinah.
The author has got a few tips on how North became a family this sakinah when following the lecture / sermon at a menjid in western Java and hopefully useful for all of us:
1. when we apply 'the idol' to be a wife, we are not currently applying for / ask the parent / guardian of the girl, but we're asking to Allah through parent / guardian of the girl.
2. when we got married, we are not married in the presence of the prince but married before God Almighty.
3. when the wedding took place, record and count the audience for our current mendo'akan itu.Hal this we need to do and think more deeply if we are / were / are thinking about divorce, because it means we have to apologize to them because have wasted their prayers.
4. During their family life, realize that the road we must go is not merely a flower strewn path of happiness but also full of thorn bushes and thorns.
5. when the Big Dipper household shaky, do not quit each other's hand, but instead they were more tightly holding hands.
6. when we do not have children, wives or husbands cintailai with 100% whole-heartedly.
7. when it already has a child, not for love of a husband or wife and children with some parts but love the husband and wife and children with each of 100% whole-heartedly.
8. when the family economy has not improved, you can be assured that the door will open wide rizki proportional to the level of husband and wife's obedience to Allah (many are the wives who could not cope with all conditions of shortage of materials and finally chose to go).
9. when the economy is getting better, do not forget your faithful service to accompany a spouse when suffering (actually temptation much happens here, when life difficult; husband always faithful, but when it is well-established life and even more than enough, the husband often glanced at the other and even share the love with another woman)
10. when you are the husband, may be spoiled, spoiled even infantile to his wife and immediately got into a mighty man is in charge when his wife needed help.
11. when you are a wife, you still apply elegant, graceful and appear Canti and meek, but must always be ready menyeleaikan all tasks successfully.
12. when educating children, do not ever think that a good parent is a parent who was never angry with the child, because parents are good parents who are honest to the child.
13. when the child is in trouble, be assured that no one single child who does not want to cooperate with parents, that there is a child who was not heard by their parents.
14. for you women, when there is Mr. Wonderful Others, do not drink, it is enough that your husband be a "drug".
15. for you man, when there are Other Women's craving, do not ever invite sebiduk sailing both to the ocean of love, it is enough for your wife as a port of the liver.
16. when we became a family sakinah, contohlah rasululloh s family.
nah, that's the tips that might be useful. is easier to write than the diving. but at least, respect and mutual respect between husband and wife as well as understanding the rights and obligations adalahs absolute requirement to be sakinah. The most meaningful to us if you want to sail into the ocean of life is "faith", so that large waves can even go through with success though they have soaked.
Kick-happy husband
One of the key sakinah family is the presence of love and affection of husband and wife are built on a spirit of mutual happiness.
Below are 17 tips for wives to be happy husband. These tips are a summary of the book How to Make Your Husband Happy, by Shaykh Muhammad Abdul Halim Hamid.
1. Sweet welcome
• Returning husband from work, service outside the city, traveling, or wherever he goes, welcome him well.
• Meet him with a joyous face.
• Effect of bleeding and wear fragrances.
• Kabarilah him with the good news is encouraging. Hold yourself to deliver bad news, at least until he has rested enough.
• Trying hard to serve quality foods, and Serve always on time.
2. Percantiklah yourself and lowering your voice
• Try to keep you always look pretty and lowered his voice in front of him. You can do so only for your husband, and do not reveal your beauty in front of men who are not mahram (men are eligible to marry you if you are not married).
3. Always perform scent and always beautiful
• Take care with good body and your physical fitness.
• Wear clothes that attract and wear perfume that smells like your husband.
• Bathe regularly. Once clear of menstruation, purify blood of any file or odor.
• Use the type of perfume, colors, and your husband liked the clothes.
• Change your hair style, perfumes, and others from time to time to avoid saturation.
• However, all of the above should be done with no exaggeration, and of course, do not do it in front of men and women who are not mahram.
... All the above must be done with no exaggeration, and of course, do not do it in front of men and women who are not mahram ...
4. When having sex.
• Hurry to melakoni intercourse when your husband was so eager to do so.
• Keep the body and the fragrant always appear as closely as possible. Even so, do not forget to clean up any fluid that comes out during sex.
• Throw expressions of intimate love to your husband.
• Allow your husband to satisfy his passion.
• chose the appropriate time and a good opportunity to satisfy her husband. Give him a stimulus to intimate him of his return journey that takes a long time.
5. Feel satisfied with what God has provided through her husband.
• You should never feel depressed just because your husband's poor or have jobs and careers mediocre. As long as you and your husband close to God-the giver sustenance, then He would be poured a fortune and favor.
• You should see people around who are poor, sick, disabled, and others. Then compare it with all that God has karuniai to you and your family.
• Always remember that true wealth lies in faith and keshalihan high. Two things were the best investment for the future eternal life.
... Do not ever feel depressed just because your husband has a job that poor or mediocre. As long as you and your husband close to God the Giver of sustenance, then He would be poured sustenance and gift ...
6. Do not bother with things of the world.
• Do not make things of this world as the expectations and interests.
• You do not have much appeal to your husband things that are not important.
• However, the ascetic life that does not mean should not be enjoying the good things and allowed (read: Lawful) Islamic law. But surely, you have to prioritize life hereafter, and utilize all means and factors that may provide benefits in heaven.
• Encourage your husband to minimize expenses for things not important, and encourage him to save in order to give alms and charity to the poor and the needy.
7. Give thanks and appreciation.
• Based on the words of the Prophet Muhammad, the majority of the inhabitants of hell are women, because they are ungrateful.
• Results from a sense of gratitude is more your husband will love you, and he will try hard to please you with a variety of ways.
• While the impact of being ungrateful is your husband will be disappointed, then began to ask, "Why do I have to do good to my wife, while he was never grateful and respectful?!"
8. Loyalty and obedience.
• Be faithful, especially when the husband suffered a calamity that befell sports or work, such as accidents or bankruptcy.
• Encourage your husband with whatever you have (both material and non-material).
... Be faithful, especially when the husband suffered a calamity that befell sports or work, such as accidents or bankruptcy ...
9. Meeting the demand for a husband.
• Fill requests husband and obey all requests-requests, if it is not menyelisihi Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad.
• In Islam, the husband is the family leader, and his wife is an advocate and consultant for him.
10. If the husband was angry, make him feel relieved.
Avoid and stay away from things that can make a prolonged anger. But if you find that prolonged anger, and you can not 'tame', then try to calm him down by following these steps:
• If you are guilty and made a mistake, then apologize to him.
• But if he makes a mistake, then you must remain calm, do not criticize it with spicy, argue, oppose, or even shout. Wait until his anger subsided, and then discuss things peacefully.
• Then if he is angry because of external factors, then you'll want to silence, until his anger vanished. Then ask him what made him angry; whether fatigue, problems in the office, there are those who insulted him, and so forth. And do not ask many questions, but focus on what made him angry. You can ask him, "You must tell me what happened?", "I have to know what makes you angry?", Or "You're sounding something, and I have a right to know what it is."
11. Keeping myself when my husband was not there.
• Take care of yourself from any relationship that is forbidden.
• Keep all the secrets of the family, particularly with regard to husband-wife relationship.
• Maintain the home and care for children.
• Keep the money and all his goods.
• Never leave the house without husband's permission, and without wearing the hijab (headscarf) is neat.
• Reject the presence of people who do not favor the husband, do not let them get into the house when her husband was not there.
• Do not let male non-Mahran alone with you anywhere.
... Reject the presence of people who do not favor the husband, do not let them get into the house when her husband was not there ...
12. Show respect for family and friends.
• You must welcome and be nice to relatives and friends of your husband, especially his parents.
• Wherever possible you should avoid problems with relatives.
• You must avoid pushing your husband to a position where he must choose between his mother and wife in a dilemma.
• Show your hospitality to its guests, with a fun way to prepare a place for them to sit, serving the best food, welcoming their wives, and so forth.
• Encourage your husband to routinely bersilaturahim to family relatives, and for them to visit your home.
• telephone your husband's parents, brothers and sisters; send them a letter, give them gifts, help them when hit by the disaster, and others.
13. Jealousy is commendable.
• Jealousy is an indication of love and unfortunately a wife to her husband, but still be within the limits of the corridor of Islamic teachings. In that sense, you may be jealous, but do not let your jealousy coupled with invective or backbiting others.
• Do not follow or create no fundamental doubts within you related to your husband.
... Jealousy is an indication of love and unfortunately a wife to her husband, but still be within the bounds of Islamic teachings corridor ...
14. Patience and emotional support.
• Be patient when you and your husband deal with poverty and stressful circumstances.
• Be patient when calamity or misfortune befall you, husband, children, relatives, or your property, both unfortunate illness, accident, death, and others.
• Be patient when your husband accept the challenges and obstacles in religious teachings (such as being intimidated, tortured, imprisoned, or even killed). Support and strengthen your husband always to always be on the tracks of obedience to Allah and His Messenger. And always remind him of heaven promised by God to the people bertauhid straight.
• If your husband does not treat you well, so be patient and greet the bad treatment by good treatment.
15. Support the husband to obey God, preach, and jihad fi sabilillah.
• Work with your husband and remind him to carry out a variety of worship obligatory and sunnah.
• Encourage your husband to perform prayers tahajud.
• Take him to regularly read the Quran and understand the meaning and interpretation.
• Encourage your husband to listen to Islamic lectures.
• Remember always God.
• Study the laws and teachings of Islam for Muslim women.
• Support the activities of her husband by giving him various opinions wise, and redakanlah pain.
• Take your time to do the mission with her husband.
• Give your husband's motivation to go for jihad, if necessary and conditions permit. Remind him that when he fought, then you and the kids will be kept by God.
... Give your husband's motivation to go for jihad, if necessary and conditions permit. Remind him that when he fought, then you and the kids will be kept by God ...
16. Caring for the house well.
• Strive for a house is always clean and well ordered.
• Change the layout of items in your home from time to time to avoid boredom.
• Learn all home maintenance skills.
• Learn how to care for children are both based on the teachings of Islam.
17. Organize family finances.
• Do not spend your husband's money, even for charity though, without asking her permission.
• Take care of home, vehicles and personal items her husband, when she was not home.
• Encourage children always existed in kondis clean, tidy, well groomed, educated, well have a certain character, and so forth. Teach them the principles of Islam is noble; also tell stories of the Prophets, friends of the Apostle, and pious men earlier. [Ganna pryadha / VOA-islam.com]
Below are 17 tips for wives to be happy husband. These tips are a summary of the book How to Make Your Husband Happy, by Shaykh Muhammad Abdul Halim Hamid.
1. Sweet welcome
• Returning husband from work, service outside the city, traveling, or wherever he goes, welcome him well.
• Meet him with a joyous face.
• Effect of bleeding and wear fragrances.
• Kabarilah him with the good news is encouraging. Hold yourself to deliver bad news, at least until he has rested enough.
• Trying hard to serve quality foods, and Serve always on time.
2. Percantiklah yourself and lowering your voice
• Try to keep you always look pretty and lowered his voice in front of him. You can do so only for your husband, and do not reveal your beauty in front of men who are not mahram (men are eligible to marry you if you are not married).
3. Always perform scent and always beautiful
• Take care with good body and your physical fitness.
• Wear clothes that attract and wear perfume that smells like your husband.
• Bathe regularly. Once clear of menstruation, purify blood of any file or odor.
• Use the type of perfume, colors, and your husband liked the clothes.
• Change your hair style, perfumes, and others from time to time to avoid saturation.
• However, all of the above should be done with no exaggeration, and of course, do not do it in front of men and women who are not mahram.
... All the above must be done with no exaggeration, and of course, do not do it in front of men and women who are not mahram ...
4. When having sex.
• Hurry to melakoni intercourse when your husband was so eager to do so.
• Keep the body and the fragrant always appear as closely as possible. Even so, do not forget to clean up any fluid that comes out during sex.
• Throw expressions of intimate love to your husband.
• Allow your husband to satisfy his passion.
• chose the appropriate time and a good opportunity to satisfy her husband. Give him a stimulus to intimate him of his return journey that takes a long time.
5. Feel satisfied with what God has provided through her husband.
• You should never feel depressed just because your husband's poor or have jobs and careers mediocre. As long as you and your husband close to God-the giver sustenance, then He would be poured a fortune and favor.
• You should see people around who are poor, sick, disabled, and others. Then compare it with all that God has karuniai to you and your family.
• Always remember that true wealth lies in faith and keshalihan high. Two things were the best investment for the future eternal life.
... Do not ever feel depressed just because your husband has a job that poor or mediocre. As long as you and your husband close to God the Giver of sustenance, then He would be poured sustenance and gift ...
6. Do not bother with things of the world.
• Do not make things of this world as the expectations and interests.
• You do not have much appeal to your husband things that are not important.
• However, the ascetic life that does not mean should not be enjoying the good things and allowed (read: Lawful) Islamic law. But surely, you have to prioritize life hereafter, and utilize all means and factors that may provide benefits in heaven.
• Encourage your husband to minimize expenses for things not important, and encourage him to save in order to give alms and charity to the poor and the needy.
7. Give thanks and appreciation.
• Based on the words of the Prophet Muhammad, the majority of the inhabitants of hell are women, because they are ungrateful.
• Results from a sense of gratitude is more your husband will love you, and he will try hard to please you with a variety of ways.
• While the impact of being ungrateful is your husband will be disappointed, then began to ask, "Why do I have to do good to my wife, while he was never grateful and respectful?!"
8. Loyalty and obedience.
• Be faithful, especially when the husband suffered a calamity that befell sports or work, such as accidents or bankruptcy.
• Encourage your husband with whatever you have (both material and non-material).
... Be faithful, especially when the husband suffered a calamity that befell sports or work, such as accidents or bankruptcy ...
9. Meeting the demand for a husband.
• Fill requests husband and obey all requests-requests, if it is not menyelisihi Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad.
• In Islam, the husband is the family leader, and his wife is an advocate and consultant for him.
10. If the husband was angry, make him feel relieved.
Avoid and stay away from things that can make a prolonged anger. But if you find that prolonged anger, and you can not 'tame', then try to calm him down by following these steps:
• If you are guilty and made a mistake, then apologize to him.
• But if he makes a mistake, then you must remain calm, do not criticize it with spicy, argue, oppose, or even shout. Wait until his anger subsided, and then discuss things peacefully.
• Then if he is angry because of external factors, then you'll want to silence, until his anger vanished. Then ask him what made him angry; whether fatigue, problems in the office, there are those who insulted him, and so forth. And do not ask many questions, but focus on what made him angry. You can ask him, "You must tell me what happened?", "I have to know what makes you angry?", Or "You're sounding something, and I have a right to know what it is."
11. Keeping myself when my husband was not there.
• Take care of yourself from any relationship that is forbidden.
• Keep all the secrets of the family, particularly with regard to husband-wife relationship.
• Maintain the home and care for children.
• Keep the money and all his goods.
• Never leave the house without husband's permission, and without wearing the hijab (headscarf) is neat.
• Reject the presence of people who do not favor the husband, do not let them get into the house when her husband was not there.
• Do not let male non-Mahran alone with you anywhere.
... Reject the presence of people who do not favor the husband, do not let them get into the house when her husband was not there ...
12. Show respect for family and friends.
• You must welcome and be nice to relatives and friends of your husband, especially his parents.
• Wherever possible you should avoid problems with relatives.
• You must avoid pushing your husband to a position where he must choose between his mother and wife in a dilemma.
• Show your hospitality to its guests, with a fun way to prepare a place for them to sit, serving the best food, welcoming their wives, and so forth.
• Encourage your husband to routinely bersilaturahim to family relatives, and for them to visit your home.
• telephone your husband's parents, brothers and sisters; send them a letter, give them gifts, help them when hit by the disaster, and others.
13. Jealousy is commendable.
• Jealousy is an indication of love and unfortunately a wife to her husband, but still be within the limits of the corridor of Islamic teachings. In that sense, you may be jealous, but do not let your jealousy coupled with invective or backbiting others.
• Do not follow or create no fundamental doubts within you related to your husband.
... Jealousy is an indication of love and unfortunately a wife to her husband, but still be within the bounds of Islamic teachings corridor ...
14. Patience and emotional support.
• Be patient when you and your husband deal with poverty and stressful circumstances.
• Be patient when calamity or misfortune befall you, husband, children, relatives, or your property, both unfortunate illness, accident, death, and others.
• Be patient when your husband accept the challenges and obstacles in religious teachings (such as being intimidated, tortured, imprisoned, or even killed). Support and strengthen your husband always to always be on the tracks of obedience to Allah and His Messenger. And always remind him of heaven promised by God to the people bertauhid straight.
• If your husband does not treat you well, so be patient and greet the bad treatment by good treatment.
15. Support the husband to obey God, preach, and jihad fi sabilillah.
• Work with your husband and remind him to carry out a variety of worship obligatory and sunnah.
• Encourage your husband to perform prayers tahajud.
• Take him to regularly read the Quran and understand the meaning and interpretation.
• Encourage your husband to listen to Islamic lectures.
• Remember always God.
• Study the laws and teachings of Islam for Muslim women.
• Support the activities of her husband by giving him various opinions wise, and redakanlah pain.
• Take your time to do the mission with her husband.
• Give your husband's motivation to go for jihad, if necessary and conditions permit. Remind him that when he fought, then you and the kids will be kept by God.
... Give your husband's motivation to go for jihad, if necessary and conditions permit. Remind him that when he fought, then you and the kids will be kept by God ...
16. Caring for the house well.
• Strive for a house is always clean and well ordered.
• Change the layout of items in your home from time to time to avoid boredom.
• Learn all home maintenance skills.
• Learn how to care for children are both based on the teachings of Islam.
17. Organize family finances.
• Do not spend your husband's money, even for charity though, without asking her permission.
• Take care of home, vehicles and personal items her husband, when she was not home.
• Encourage children always existed in kondis clean, tidy, well groomed, educated, well have a certain character, and so forth. Teach them the principles of Islam is noble; also tell stories of the Prophets, friends of the Apostle, and pious men earlier. [Ganna pryadha / VOA-islam.com]
Sunday 5 June 2011
FIVE FAMILY TERMS
FIVE FAMILY TERMS
Sakinah
A building made of bricks, if the bricks missing, then
the building was not only lost its beauty but also its strength.
Society is a reflection of the condition of the family. If a healthy family means a healthy society as well. If families are happy, people were happy. At least, there are five factors to form a family sakinah of them as follows.
1. In family is mawaddah and mercy.
Mawaddah is the kind of love burning, which mengebu-enthusiasm. While mercy is a kind of gentle love, ready to sacrifice and protecting loved ones. Mawaddah just about guarantee the continuity of the household. On the contrary, a blessing, not enough memeberikan warranty.
2. The relationship between husband and wife must be above based on mutual need.
Such as clothing and wear it "hunna libasun lakum wa libasun lahunna you yourselves." (Surat al-Baqara: 187) If we examine more deeply, the function of clothing at least three; close the genitalia, to protect themselves from heat and cold, as well as jewelry. Husband to wife, also must have the same function.
If the wife has something short, my husband did not tell anyone else. Vice versa. If the wife was sick, my husband immediately seek drug or brought to the doctor. Vice versa. Wives should always appear proud husband, the husband also should appear proud wife. Do not reversed, the outcome appeared to draw crowds. But when at home, appear unsightly eye.
3. Husband and wife in the mix notice things that are socially
considered inappropriate (ma'ruf), no true origin and the right.
"Wa'a syiruhunna ma'ruf bil." (Surah An Nisa: 19). The amount of dowry, maintenance, how to get along and so must pay attention to the values ma'ruf. This is especially must be considered by the husband and wife who come from cultures that striking differences.
4. According to the hadith of the Prophet, the pillars of the family sakinah there were four.
a. Has a tendency to religion.
b. The young respect the old and the parents loved that
young.
c. Simple in spending.
d. Courtesy of hanging out and always do introspection.
5. Prophet also told us about the four factors are a source of
family happiness.
a. Husband and wife are faithful.
b. Salih and Shalihah.
c. Children who are devoted to his parents.
d. A healthy social environment and sustenance which is close.
Day after day must not pass. Child as the fruit of our love, grow and develop. Our steps today to determine his future. Hopefully they can become heir to what we want. As long as we are faithful to the five things above, God's help, God willing, will always overshadow our ancestry. Amen.
Sakinah
A building made of bricks, if the bricks missing, then
the building was not only lost its beauty but also its strength.
Society is a reflection of the condition of the family. If a healthy family means a healthy society as well. If families are happy, people were happy. At least, there are five factors to form a family sakinah of them as follows.
1. In family is mawaddah and mercy.
Mawaddah is the kind of love burning, which mengebu-enthusiasm. While mercy is a kind of gentle love, ready to sacrifice and protecting loved ones. Mawaddah just about guarantee the continuity of the household. On the contrary, a blessing, not enough memeberikan warranty.
2. The relationship between husband and wife must be above based on mutual need.
Such as clothing and wear it "hunna libasun lakum wa libasun lahunna you yourselves." (Surat al-Baqara: 187) If we examine more deeply, the function of clothing at least three; close the genitalia, to protect themselves from heat and cold, as well as jewelry. Husband to wife, also must have the same function.
If the wife has something short, my husband did not tell anyone else. Vice versa. If the wife was sick, my husband immediately seek drug or brought to the doctor. Vice versa. Wives should always appear proud husband, the husband also should appear proud wife. Do not reversed, the outcome appeared to draw crowds. But when at home, appear unsightly eye.
3. Husband and wife in the mix notice things that are socially
considered inappropriate (ma'ruf), no true origin and the right.
"Wa'a syiruhunna ma'ruf bil." (Surah An Nisa: 19). The amount of dowry, maintenance, how to get along and so must pay attention to the values ma'ruf. This is especially must be considered by the husband and wife who come from cultures that striking differences.
4. According to the hadith of the Prophet, the pillars of the family sakinah there were four.
a. Has a tendency to religion.
b. The young respect the old and the parents loved that
young.
c. Simple in spending.
d. Courtesy of hanging out and always do introspection.
5. Prophet also told us about the four factors are a source of
family happiness.
a. Husband and wife are faithful.
b. Salih and Shalihah.
c. Children who are devoted to his parents.
d. A healthy social environment and sustenance which is close.
Day after day must not pass. Child as the fruit of our love, grow and develop. Our steps today to determine his future. Hopefully they can become heir to what we want. As long as we are faithful to the five things above, God's help, God willing, will always overshadow our ancestry. Amen.
Wednesday 9 March 2011
PONDER HEART
Berhembuslah O love in the soul
Exposure to love her always throws the universe
Cool and peaceful feel
Birds singing
The leaves sway and dance
Humans do not drop the name of the creator
Berhembuslah O wind that always didamba
Terpaanmu will always be in the soul
Sobriety has grown to perfection
The birds always sing it for you
It always leaves flutter your soul
Humans will tennang with your name meyebut
Berhembuslah O love in the soul
terpaanmu will always be a flower
Wangimu not smell everywhere
The birds and it always leaves a sweet smile
humans will always be open to you
Berhembuslah always in the soul
Terpaanmu will someday end
Let's stay a memorable name
The birds and leaves her heartbroken if remember
Humans will always pray for you
Fly O holy soul
Fly freely
Fly with the name of your Lord
Fly in peace
All creatures will forgive you
Because your soul is full of love and affection
Exposure to love her always throws the universe
Cool and peaceful feel
Birds singing
The leaves sway and dance
Humans do not drop the name of the creator
Berhembuslah O wind that always didamba
Terpaanmu will always be in the soul
Sobriety has grown to perfection
The birds always sing it for you
It always leaves flutter your soul
Humans will tennang with your name meyebut
Berhembuslah O love in the soul
terpaanmu will always be a flower
Wangimu not smell everywhere
The birds and it always leaves a sweet smile
humans will always be open to you
Berhembuslah always in the soul
Terpaanmu will someday end
Let's stay a memorable name
The birds and leaves her heartbroken if remember
Humans will always pray for you
Fly O holy soul
Fly freely
Fly with the name of your Lord
Fly in peace
All creatures will forgive you
Because your soul is full of love and affection
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