Sakinah Family Tips

We often watch infotainment on TV, many celebrities who divorce. Seems trivial really, this one seems to matter only for administrative matters only.

In this paper, the authors do not want to be observers or for celebrity gossip, but more of interest to motivate us all in order to create a harmonious and peaceful family. For indeed, not just celebrities who can divorce, but ordinary people can, too. If only they understood how important it is to maintain a marriage, especially for us who believe in Allah, certainly the most mature consideration become the main reference.

Sometimes just because a small problem, they should end the marriage and children become victims of selfishness and arrogance of the parents. I do not know what we can understand, yet another reason for human rights or personal affairs and other things so that someone else is difficult to give input. Especially when the heart is "hot", Wahh .. certainly difficult to be able to give moral support.

of course we often attend weddings peers or our family and that often we also hear the prayers of parents who want their children to become family sakinah when married. Families who sakinah and always full of grace .. so pray the "old".

According to Indonesian rule, s akinah have a sense of peace, tranquility, serenity, happiness. So the family sakinah covered family implies a sense of peace, peaceful, happy as well (hopefully happy mentally and physically).

From sakinah word, we can understand that prayer is the desire of the elderly had a peaceful atmosphere in the household. but peace in the household often become damaged simply because there is no mutual understanding between husband and wife, especially when it comes to affairs of the material. Here are tips for creating family sakinah.

The author has got a few tips on how North became a family this sakinah when following the lecture / sermon at a menjid in western Java and hopefully useful for all of us:
1. when we apply 'the idol' to be a wife, we are not currently applying for / ask the parent / guardian of the girl, but we're asking to Allah through parent / guardian of the girl.
2. when we got married, we are not married in the presence of the prince but married before God Almighty.
3. when the wedding took place, record and count the audience for our current mendo'akan itu.Hal this we need to do and think more deeply if we are / were / are thinking about divorce, because it means we have to apologize to them because have wasted their prayers.
4. During their family life, realize that the road we must go is not merely a flower strewn path of happiness but also full of thorn bushes and thorns.
5. when the Big Dipper household shaky, do not quit each other's hand, but instead they were more tightly holding hands.
6. when we do not have children, wives or husbands cintailai with 100% whole-heartedly.
7. when it already has a child, not for love of a husband or wife and children with some parts but love the husband and wife and children with each of 100% whole-heartedly.
8. when the family economy has not improved, you can be assured that the door will open wide rizki proportional to the level of husband and wife's obedience to Allah (many are the wives who could not cope with all conditions of shortage of materials and finally chose to go).
9. when the economy is getting better, do not forget your faithful service to accompany a spouse when suffering (actually temptation much happens here, when life difficult; husband always faithful, but when it is well-established life and even more than enough, the husband often glanced at the other and even share the love with another woman)
10. when you are the husband, may be spoiled, spoiled even infantile to his wife and immediately got into a mighty man is in charge when his wife needed help.
11. when you are a wife, you still apply elegant, graceful and appear Canti and meek, but must always be ready menyeleaikan all tasks successfully.
12. when educating children, do not ever think that a good parent is a parent who was never angry with the child, because parents are good parents who are honest to the child.
13. when the child is in trouble, be assured that no one single child who does not want to cooperate with parents, that there is a child who was not heard by their parents.
14. for you women, when there is Mr. Wonderful Others, do not drink, it is enough that your husband be a "drug".
15. for you man, when there are Other Women's craving, do not ever invite sebiduk sailing both to the ocean of love, it is enough for your wife as a port of the liver.
16. when we became a family sakinah, contohlah rasululloh s family.
nah, that's the tips that might be useful. is easier to write than the diving. but at least, respect and mutual respect between husband and wife as well as understanding the rights and obligations adalahs absolute requirement to be sakinah. The most meaningful to us if you want to sail into the ocean of life is "faith", so that large waves can even go through with success though they have soaked.