Kick-happy husband

One of the key sakinah family is the presence of love and affection of husband and wife are built on a spirit of mutual happiness.
Below are 17 tips for wives to be happy husband. These tips are a summary of the book How to Make Your Husband Happy, by Shaykh Muhammad Abdul Halim Hamid.
1. Sweet welcome
• Returning husband from work, service outside the city, traveling, or wherever he goes, welcome him well.
• Meet him with a joyous face.
• Effect of bleeding and wear fragrances.
• Kabarilah him with the good news is encouraging. Hold yourself to deliver bad news, at least until he has rested enough.
• Trying hard to serve quality foods, and Serve always on time.
2. Percantiklah yourself and lowering your voice
• Try to keep you always look pretty and lowered his voice in front of him. You can do so only for your husband, and do not reveal your beauty in front of men who are not mahram (men are eligible to marry you if you are not married).
3. Always perform scent and always beautiful
• Take care with good body and your physical fitness.
• Wear clothes that attract and wear perfume that smells like your husband.
• Bathe regularly. Once clear of menstruation, purify blood of any file or odor.
• Use the type of perfume, colors, and your husband liked the clothes.
• Change your hair style, perfumes, and others from time to time to avoid saturation.
• However, all of the above should be done with no exaggeration, and of course, do not do it in front of men and women who are not mahram.
... All the above must be done with no exaggeration, and of course, do not do it in front of men and women who are not mahram ...
4. When having sex.
• Hurry to melakoni intercourse when your husband was so eager to do so.
• Keep the body and the fragrant always appear as closely as possible. Even so, do not forget to clean up any fluid that comes out during sex.
• Throw expressions of intimate love to your husband.
• Allow your husband to satisfy his passion.
• chose the appropriate time and a good opportunity to satisfy her husband. Give him a stimulus to intimate him of his return journey that takes a long time.
5. Feel satisfied with what God has provided through her husband.
• You should never feel depressed just because your husband's poor or have jobs and careers mediocre. As long as you and your husband close to God-the giver sustenance, then He would be poured a fortune and favor.
• You should see people around who are poor, sick, disabled, and others. Then compare it with all that God has karuniai to you and your family.
• Always remember that true wealth lies in faith and keshalihan high. Two things were the best investment for the future eternal life.
... Do not ever feel depressed just because your husband has a job that poor or mediocre. As long as you and your husband close to God the Giver of sustenance, then He would be poured sustenance and gift ...
6. Do not bother with things of the world.
• Do not make things of this world as the expectations and interests.
• You do not have much appeal to your husband things that are not important.
• However, the ascetic life that does not mean should not be enjoying the good things and allowed (read: Lawful) Islamic law. But surely, you have to prioritize life hereafter, and utilize all means and factors that may provide benefits in heaven.
• Encourage your husband to minimize expenses for things not important, and encourage him to save in order to give alms and charity to the poor and the needy.
7. Give thanks and appreciation.
• Based on the words of the Prophet Muhammad, the majority of the inhabitants of hell are women, because they are ungrateful.
• Results from a sense of gratitude is more your husband will love you, and he will try hard to please you with a variety of ways.
• While the impact of being ungrateful is your husband will be disappointed, then began to ask, "Why do I have to do good to my wife, while he was never grateful and respectful?!"
8. Loyalty and obedience.
• Be faithful, especially when the husband suffered a calamity that befell sports or work, such as accidents or bankruptcy.
• Encourage your husband with whatever you have (both material and non-material).
... Be faithful, especially when the husband suffered a calamity that befell sports or work, such as accidents or bankruptcy ...
9. Meeting the demand for a husband.
• Fill requests husband and obey all requests-requests, if it is not menyelisihi Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad.
• In Islam, the husband is the family leader, and his wife is an advocate and consultant for him.
10. If the husband was angry, make him feel relieved.
Avoid and stay away from things that can make a prolonged anger. But if you find that prolonged anger, and you can not 'tame', then try to calm him down by following these steps:
• If you are guilty and made a mistake, then apologize to him.
• But if he makes a mistake, then you must remain calm, do not criticize it with spicy, argue, oppose, or even shout. Wait until his anger subsided, and then discuss things peacefully.
• Then if he is angry because of external factors, then you'll want to silence, until his anger vanished. Then ask him what made him angry; whether fatigue, problems in the office, there are those who insulted him, and so forth. And do not ask many questions, but focus on what made him angry. You can ask him, "You must tell me what happened?", "I have to know what makes you angry?", Or "You're sounding something, and I have a right to know what it is."
11. Keeping myself when my husband was not there.
• Take care of yourself from any relationship that is forbidden.
• Keep all the secrets of the family, particularly with regard to husband-wife relationship.
• Maintain the home and care for children.
• Keep the money and all his goods.
• Never leave the house without husband's permission, and without wearing the hijab (headscarf) is neat.
• Reject the presence of people who do not favor the husband, do not let them get into the house when her husband was not there.
• Do not let male non-Mahran alone with you anywhere.
... Reject the presence of people who do not favor the husband, do not let them get into the house when her husband was not there ...
12. Show respect for family and friends.
• You must welcome and be nice to relatives and friends of your husband, especially his parents.
• Wherever possible you should avoid problems with relatives.
• You must avoid pushing your husband to a position where he must choose between his mother and wife in a dilemma.
• Show your hospitality to its guests, with a fun way to prepare a place for them to sit, serving the best food, welcoming their wives, and so forth.
• Encourage your husband to routinely bersilaturahim to family relatives, and for them to visit your home.
• telephone your husband's parents, brothers and sisters; send them a letter, give them gifts, help them when hit by the disaster, and others.
13. Jealousy is commendable.
• Jealousy is an indication of love and unfortunately a wife to her husband, but still be within the limits of the corridor of Islamic teachings. In that sense, you may be jealous, but do not let your jealousy coupled with invective or backbiting others.
• Do not follow or create no fundamental doubts within you related to your husband.
... Jealousy is an indication of love and unfortunately a wife to her husband, but still be within the bounds of Islamic teachings corridor ...
14. Patience and emotional support.
• Be patient when you and your husband deal with poverty and stressful circumstances.
• Be patient when calamity or misfortune befall you, husband, children, relatives, or your property, both unfortunate illness, accident, death, and others.
• Be patient when your husband accept the challenges and obstacles in religious teachings (such as being intimidated, tortured, imprisoned, or even killed). Support and strengthen your husband always to always be on the tracks of obedience to Allah and His Messenger. And always remind him of heaven promised by God to the people bertauhid straight.
• If your husband does not treat you well, so be patient and greet the bad treatment by good treatment.
15. Support the husband to obey God, preach, and jihad fi sabilillah.
• Work with your husband and remind him to carry out a variety of worship obligatory and sunnah.
• Encourage your husband to perform prayers tahajud.
• Take him to regularly read the Quran and understand the meaning and interpretation.
• Encourage your husband to listen to Islamic lectures.
• Remember always God.
• Study the laws and teachings of Islam for Muslim women.
• Support the activities of her husband by giving him various opinions wise, and redakanlah pain.
• Take your time to do the mission with her husband.
• Give your husband's motivation to go for jihad, if necessary and conditions permit. Remind him that when he fought, then you and the kids will be kept by God.
... Give your husband's motivation to go for jihad, if necessary and conditions permit. Remind him that when he fought, then you and the kids will be kept by God ...
16. Caring for the house well.
• Strive for a house is always clean and well ordered.
• Change the layout of items in your home from time to time to avoid boredom.
• Learn all home maintenance skills.
• Learn how to care for children are both based on the teachings of Islam.
17. Organize family finances.
• Do not spend your husband's money, even for charity though, without asking her permission.
• Take care of home, vehicles and personal items her husband, when she was not home.
• Encourage children always existed in kondis clean, tidy, well groomed, educated, well have a certain character, and so forth. Teach them the principles of Islam is noble; also tell stories of the Prophets, friends of the Apostle, and pious men earlier. [Ganna pryadha / VOA-islam.com]